I was only in eighth grade when my first sibling got
married. I only had one sister growing
up so I was more than thrilled to be gaining another one when they got
married! Since then two of my other
siblings have gotten married and I have been blessed with some pretty amazing
sisters in law and an awesome brother in law.
Since I’m not married myself, I don’t have a lot of experience with in
laws other than my siblings’ spouses. I
have heard many horror stories about in laws though. My sisters in law and my brother in law have
just become more siblings to love. I
really liked the quote from chapter 37 of Helping and healing our families:
Principles and practices inspired by "The Family: A Proclamation to the
World". It said, “…it means a great deal for an
in-law to be referred to by siblings simply as “my brother” or “my sister”
rather than always being labeled as in-laws.” (2005, pg 331) Three days after I
graduated from high school, I had the great blessing to be able to move in with
my sister in law and nephew while my brother had to be away doing an
internship. While it was a hard
situation for my brother and his wife, I feel so lucky that I was able to
develop such a strong relationship with my sister in law. She still calls me regularly just to talk and
make sure that I’m doing okay.
When my
second brother got married, things were a little different. His wife is equally as awesome as my other
brother’s wife, I was just a bratty teenager. I fell into the trap of comparing my two
sisters in law and I ended up making things a little rough for a while. Luckily, I grew up and have since developed a
great relationship with both of my brothers’ wives. Another quote I really liked from Helping
and healing our families: Principles and practices inspired by "The
Family: A Proclamation to the World" said, “siblings can do much to help new in-laws feel included. Writing letters, making phone calls that
include both sibling and new spouse, and doing activities with the new spouse
to increase feelings of belonging.” (2005, pg 332) I’m so grateful for my
family, both those who were born into it as well as those who have come into it
through marriage. What a blessing it is
to be able to be with them forever because of the temple and the ordinances
that are performed there.